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Fri, May 2, 2014 - 12:13pm -- Isaac Sukin

As I head out from Penn, here are some of the most important things I've learned about life so far. I almost didn't publish this because in some ways offering general advice is pretentious, but I hope that someone will be a little happier for having read this.

  • Be nice to people even when you don't want to. It can take some mental effort, but it's amazing how much it pays off. There are lots of ways you can be nice to people: you can just not be mean, you can listen to people, you can respond quickly when others ask for favors, you can pro-actively look for ways to share your successes with others, you can connect people who can help each other, you can make it known that you're willing to help if an opportunity arises, you can make sure people are included, you can stop other people from being hurtful... just make sure it's genuine and not ingratiating, and don't let people take advantage of you; sometimes being nice means being willing to say No.
  • Pick something and make it special. Find something that gets you excited and make it a top priority. You will get more out than you put in. All that really matters for a group or project to be successful is having people who care about it.
  • Get to know people. I've been the happiest in college when I've had the strongest relationships. Those have happened through dating, "new member education" in my fraternity, activities with other groups I've had a leadership role in, and becoming best friends. I was not expecting this, but I think it's a pretty common pattern. I've been very happy working on side projects too, but it really turned out to be about the people. It's not always easy to find people you enjoy affiliating with, but it's easier when you proactively seek out or create groups for people with similar interests and values. The relationships you can start there build on themselves over time and introduce you to broader networks. It helps if you can find ways to meet your friends' friends. Some ways to do that include organizing private events (dinner parties, outings, trips) where people can invite their friends, asking your friends for introductions to interesting people (especially if they come up in conversation), becoming an expert or gatekeeper so that other people think to refer their friends to you, and staying in touch with people on the edges of your network. The only caveat to all of this is that you should keep your relationships in perspective, and try not to overcommit.
  • Have no fear. Almost always, nobody cares if you fail or look stupid. The few people who do care don't take those risks themselves, and by the time you've taken a few risks you won't care about those people any more. Worst case, it's a funny story. Best case, you learn a lot and accomplish more than you thought you could. The best case happens more often than you'd think.
  • Never let the urgent crowd out the merely important. Most people have trouble seeing beyond their day-to-day struggles. It turns out that most things that seem urgent aren't actually that important, and taking a wider view helps you prioritize better. It's important to maintain a big-picture view to help you do this. That said, don't neglect the details for the things that do matter or you won't be able to get things done effectively. Especially go out of your way to get details right for the people in your life who matter most to you.
  • Weight other people's opinions appropriately and in context, including the ones I've presented here. You know the details of your own situation better than anyone else. Don't let that be an excuse to not act, but don't blindly follow advice either. Instead, try things and adjust. Do seek out information. Do develop your own opinions and become confident in them. Make sure to remain open-minded and to consider different perspectives. Almost nothing is black and white.

How to Solve World-Changing Problems

Wed, Aug 15, 2012 - 11:10pm -- Isaac Sukin

The other day I read an article about global warming, and something about it keeps bugging me.1 My initial reaction was that someone would figure it all out; someone always does. But "someone" doesn't seem to be getting very far this time, and this is a big, important, world-changing problem. So, I thought, why is that "someone" not me?

Thoughts on the Alive Web

Mon, Jun 20, 2011 - 12:14am -- Isaac Sukin

If you stay up-to-date with what's in vogue among the technology elite, you've probably heard about turntable.fm. If you haven't, let me tell you: it's a website where you listen to music with other people. And when I say with other people, I mean it looks like your avatar is standing in a club with other people listening to DJs up on a booth. You can rate the song as "Awesome" or "Lame," chat with other clubbers, and even DJ if there's a free spot. DJs get points for awesome songs that let them get new avatars. It's absurdly addicting. And so the tech world has been abuzz with praise that has typically failed to see the really important lessons here.

Hopes and Predictions for Drupal in 2011

Tue, Jan 18, 2011 - 5:34pm -- Isaac Sukin

Dries has already posted his Drupal 2010 retrospective and 2011 predictions. You can contribute your own thoughts in the comments on the related "Predictions for 2011" thread on Drupal.org. I agree with most of what's been written in both places. Here is my compilation of developments that I hope or expect to see this year.

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